GabeandJesss - Teen Mom

Q. Why is it a good idea for a 17 yr old to try to conceive before she finishes high school?
A: It isn't okay. However, take into consideration that what you consider the truth and what I do is probably very different. I do not want to get into the argument of rather anyone tried to conceive because what happened 3 years ago is irrelevant.
Ask me is it a good idea for a 17 yr old to have a baby before she finishes high school...
I would never wish teen parenting on anyone. It is HARD!!!!!
Again I say I would NEVER change my decision to have Braiden.
I would however change the age in which I had him. Was I ready to be a mom? Absolutely NOT! WHO IS?

Would I tell anyone that having a baby is fun and easy? HELL NO!
What I am saying is at least give teen mothers credit for actually having their children (now I hope it's a given that I mean the ones who actually take care of their children).
We ask for the struggles we encounter. We know that!
Many teenagers uses the plan B pill or abortion clinics as their birth control.


As far as "living with mommy and daddy", it is our parents choice to either support or not support and it's really none of your business. To me it just seems like jealousy that you more than likely wouldn't be given the same by your parents.
Now is my mother and father PROUD I was/am a teen parent? NO.
But it happened and you can either get angry for the next 18 years or you can
accept what "is" and make the best of it.


I thought I'd respond to this here since I can't respond to the blog post. I wouldn't have responded to it at all except that I want to make one thing clear... I am NOT anti teen mothers. I am very much in favor of teen moms getting all of the help and support that they need. Like I said in other posts here, I was a teen mom myself. I have raised a beautiful, intelligent and well adjusted 5 year old. So, I know that there are teen moms out there that are great moms. However, I would say the majority of them are not ready to be parents and I strongly advise girls to use protection or to wait to have babies. Wait until you have an education, are in a committed and stable relationship and have a place of your own. You obviously feel the same way I do, which is great.

You pretty much ignored the whole point of that sarcastic post that I made. I don't believe that Jessica got pregnant on accident. So, I look at her situation differently. I don't have a lot of sympathy for you if you plan to have a baby under those circumstances... and then plan to have another one. Don't tell a bunch of teenage girls that your birth control failed when you did in fact try to conceive and it's painfully obvious.

Jealousy has nothing to do with it. Not everyone who has a different opinion or thinks that the message she's sending isn't the right one is jealous. I have no problem with teen parents living with their own parents. I lived with mine until my daughter turned 2, and they are fantastic grandparents. However, I don't think it's right to set out to do that on purpose. Also, if you get pregnant a second time living under your parents' roof you either don't know how to use birth control or you aren't trying very hard to prevent it from happening again. Just saying.

I really like jess and I think she is great mom. She knows alot about parenting and is very good at it. I do not beleive she got pregnant on purpose two times.I know that she will do fine when her twin boys come along.

mommyoftwogirlsca wrote:I really like jess and I think she is great mom. She knows alot about parenting and is very good at it. I do not beleive she got pregnant on purpose two times.I know that she will do fine when her twin boys come along.

Just curious.... but how do you know she's good at parenting?

GuruUmmmmNo wrote:

mommyoftwogirlsca wrote:I really like jess and I think she is great mom. She knows alot about parenting and is very good at it. I do not beleive she got pregnant on purpose two times.I know that she will do fine when her twin boys come along.

Just curious.... but how do you know she's good at parenting?

Jess definitely seems like a good mother from her videos and it's hard to determine what we don't know but in her day in the life type videos, she seems really good with Lilia. I can understand questioning if she got pregnant on purpose but questioning her ablities as a mother seems silly when everyone has so many different views on parenting.

I don't know, the whole Drake situation makes me question her "great parenting skills". Not only did she allow Drake to move in with her and her daughter, after just ONE month of dating, but she was wanting her daughter to call him "daddy", when she clearly already has her dad. It's not even like her dad passed away or something. To me, that's bizarre and that is just one example of how she doesn't have these "great parenting skills".

In all fairness though, none of us see nearly enough to judge how great or how bad of a parent she is. Of course she is only going to show the happy fun times, so that alone makes it hard for any of us to truly know what kind of parent she is.

Just my opinion.

I suppose I'm biased on the whole Drake situation since I think that she seems to have realized the mistake in moving so quickly with him but time'll tell if she ends up thriving as a single woman with her family's support or if she ends up repeating her past with a different seemingly perfect guy for her, Lilia and the boys.

I just cant believe or even comprehend why ppl stick up or even "feel bad" for srake. Firsr of all drake has been cheating on jess ever since they got together aka wayyyy before she even got pregnant or marries. So enough said hes a scumbag. Secondly drake may already have a child from his ex gf. This is not jess,s fault at all. If i was a guy and knew i MAY already have a baby from my ex i would make damn sure to use a condem in the future. It doesnt mattyer if a girl was like "dont worry babe im on the pill" i would never trust anything i wouldnt dare take myu fhnces! He did not use a condem plain and simple. This is as much his fault as it is jess's. Now for example if jess was a super psycho bitch and started poking holes in condems after drake insisited on using condoms then absolutley jess could then be blamed for secretly trying to get pregnant on purpose. She didnt do that. Drake the idiot tha he is may have a child nd srtill didnt use condoms. What an idiot. He got what he deserved for being such an ifiot.

I feel bad for any guy who has been tricked into getting a girl pregnant. They were not even together that long, the pregnancy and marriage seemed to happen right away so how was he cheating "wayyyy" back when? Unless she was messing around on Gabe with Drake which really wouldn't surprise me since Lilia looks a LOT like Drake. What a coinkidink. Drake may have had a kid possibly, Jessica FOR SURE had a kid to think about, so she should have been damn sure to use a condom, especially when she claims to have accidentally gotten pregnant on the pill once before. You cannot blame Drake for not using a condom and also say it's all his fault and none of the fault lies on Jessica. It takes two. How can you say that poking holes in condoms would make her a super psycho bitch if it really was a case of her just pretending to be on the pill? It's the same thing really.

Anyways also the last time i looked at that blog thingie about jess i had to laugh. The r accusing jess of "having no job or education and having to resort to living at home with her mom" that is so hillarious to me. Like sriously? Have u been hiding under a rock? Jess has actually completed 2 years almost of college and intends to return next year after the twins are a tad older so she can finish her nursing degree. She is 19 years old so who cares if she lives with her mom? Im sure grandma loves being so close to her grandbabies and helping!

The reason jess was able to go to college once lilia was born ws because gabes mom was a caring and helpful grandma who offered to watch her baby when she had to go to classes. Maybe drakes family hasnt offered the same thing hence the reason she now does have to take a year off of college to be their and take of them.


Give ur head a shake. Jess brings in money from youtube and has nearly 2 years of college completed. If u want to start accusing someone of being a loser who lives with mom no educationetc take a look at drake! He is like 22 years old and just barely graduated from high school. He has never went to college and was an unemployed leech for the past four years of his adult life. No car. No money. Now he finally got a bit less lazy and got himselg a minimum wage job.

So what if she has two years of college for nursing? That's worthless unless she finishes, and finishing school and holding down a job with three small children is going to be very difficult. People care that she lives with her mom because she brought three innocent kids into this world with no way to support them or herself except for youtube. The fact is that something like 2% of of teen moms finish their degree before age 30. Would you think Drake was less of a loser if he was making as much money from pimping his kids and reproductive abilites out on youtube like Jess does? All Jess has accomplished so far is some college credits that aren't helping her bring in more money and three kids.

I just watched my first video out of boredom from her channel.

I absolutely, positively cannot believe she has her HOME ADDRESS on her bio!

tiphany wrote:I just watched my first video out of boredom from her channel.

I absolutely, positively cannot believe she has her HOME ADDRESS on her bio!

I don't think its her home address, but a post box so people can send her stuff.

drwholass1018 wrote:

tiphany wrote:I just watched my first video out of boredom from her channel.

I absolutely, positively cannot believe she has her HOME ADDRESS on her bio!

I don't think its her home address, but a post box so people can send her stuff.

Good call. I didn't pay close enough attention.

Now I've just seen she's posted a circumscision(sorry for spelling lol) video...If this is anything like the kinda stuff she's said/sparked on fb then this is gonna be interesting. I haven't watched it yet, but I'll keep y'all updated.

Reactions during - First off, I'm not entirely comfortable with the whole Lilia being in the room whilst she's talking about this (I know she probably won't remember it but still it makes me go ewww). Also the use of 'every family is different e.t.c.' means that you just KNOW she is judging you, but she wants to come across as nice. HOLD UP...foreskins are used in face creams? proof? That thing at the end with Lilia...ewwwww

***24 Mins, 1 Second later***

First things first - I am completely pro-choice on this matter, if the mother decides its right then its right for that situation. I feel that Jess here is trying to be (sneakily) 'why would you maim your child you horrible person???' and no matter what she said, she was so biased on the subject it wasn't even funny. If she had done a true comparison, then surely she would have left her decision for the end of the video? She went in there with a mission - to get people to agree with her on the matter.

She also mentioned all these reasons for why people were circumcising their sons, e.g cleanliness, but she failed to pick up on a major one - people's religions. And the reason why I both praise her and condemn her on that one is that its very tricky once you start to criticise someones religion, and no one should ever do it ( <- see praise ). However, it also makes me think she knows that there would be no way of her to win if she started mentioning religion (cos then it descends very quickly into abuse, and its difficult to win agaisnt that).

I just don't think her video was as unbias as she wants it to come across, and for that I won't let it slide. Topics like this, abortion and breasfeeding are difficult to talk about. But I think that for videos which are meant to be giving information about what its like to be a teen mom, she could simply say 'this is what I'm doing and why', rather than try and persuade other people to join her. Sorry for the rant, its now over

omg it is so refreshing to see people who aren't right up this girl's ass. There's just tooo much to say about this girl -- clearly, obviously, there is tons of evidence she got pregnant on purpose. twice. although with factual, visual proof in front of their eyes, do her fans believe that? noooo. she can do no wrong in their eyes. i have ZERO sympathy for her situation -- you move in with a guy after a month of dating (sorry, he moves into your PARENTS' house after a month of dating), you have your daughter calling him "daddy", you get pregnant after 8 months and engaged, then divorced in less than a year??? She's absolute TRASH. and sorry but your first clue might be that your hubby possible had a girl pregnant when you got together, and never seemed to have a job either... if a girl like this went to any of her "fans" high schools, they'd be calling her alot of things, but it wouldn't be "inspiring/great mom/amazing" etc.. she's so full of shit. The whole circumcision video was ridiculous.. if you want to present facts, sure. but every time she brought up a counter point, she'd laugh about it and be sarcastic. She LOVES to stir the pot with the circumcision issue... like f*&^ off already, who gives a shit?? if ANYONE criticizes even the SMALLEST thing she does, they're trolled and banned immediately. Honestly i watch her as a reminder of how lucky i am to NOT be in her situation. She is a trashy, slutty, attention-seeking famewhore who likes to trick men into getting her pregnant.

ringslikeabelle wrote:It also kinda irks me at the fact that Jessica will NOT stop going on and on about not circumcising the boys and how it's such an awful thing and how when they are born she won be getting it done because she doesn't want to hurt them with, what she sees as a pointless procedure. 

HOLD UP!

She had Lilia's ears pierced when she was only 10 weeks or something like that. The nerve. 
Don't get me wrong, I love Jess and Lilia, Kyson and Kayden and I will support her pretty much no matter what but I am of the opinion that you know what is right for your child so I am neither pro-circumcision nor anti-circumcision but she needs to learn that everyone gets an opinion and everyone gets the choice of what they choose for their children and just because she posts a crap tonne of information on it doesn't mean she gets to put people down for their decisions.

And if she even brings up the fact that that Lilia's ears were done for a tradition or whatever the excuse is she used, and I only got my ears done like 6 months ago and by god, could you imagine a 10 week old baby having to go through that? I mean its not that bad but could you imagine. I hate to tell her this but circumcision is tradition in some countries and religions. Let's see her weasel her way out of that one. 

Eugh. Rant over.

OMG THANK YOU!!! i've thought about the ears piercing thing too... all her reasons for not circumcizing:

1. its not the boys choice
2. its permanently altering a part of their body
3. there's no need for it

uhh sorry but those ALL apply to the ear piercing too... research that, bitch!

Jess is obviously one of those jackasses who googles shit all day and then thinks she's got the equivalent of a phd because of it. Seriously, how can anyone take her rants on circumcision seriously when she pierced an infants ears?? lol. That's a great point. It just goes to prove how dumb people can be. I actually feel sorry for Jess is some ways. She has NO IDEA what she has done to her life. Going from one child to three is going to be a huge adjustment. It will be super hard for her to ever get out of her moms house alone with three kids and hold down a job. She's all wrapped up in thinking about decorating a nursery and breastfeeding and circumcision, I don't think she has given any thought at all to what her kids lives are going to be like beyond the infant phase and that's just sad. Honestly I think she needs counselling or something because what is she going to do when her kids are beyond the infant phase (and that will go by FAST) and she is stuck at her mom's house with three kids?

Is it me or does this girl spend an awful lot of time "researching" about babies and pregnancy? What she should have been researching is how not to get pregnant at the age of 17 or at the very least how to use proper birth control. She acts like shes the fact police when it comes to circumcision and breast feeding but yet she knows nothing about how to properly use a condom. Why do these girls call her an inspiration? I would never want my daughter to aspire to be anything like her. Also why is she praised for being a "good mom" and taking care of her child? You are supposed to take care of your child. Its like Chris Rock said in one of his stand up shows. He said there are guys walking around bragging about things they are supposed to do. He said some guys walk around saying" I take care of my kids" and he says well you dumb ass your supposed to lol. Thats something you are SUPPOSED to do! She got pregnant she had a baby she should take care of that baby. Its pretty simple. I just think that she needs to devote more google search time looking up how her bad choices are going to affect her kids in the long run. In all her time on youtube I have yet to see her make a clear smart decision on her own. Even after her ex husband cheated on he had to be the one to tell her to file for a divorce. She didnt even make that decision on her own. Also I dont buy this whole shes not getting any public assistance crap because in one of her earlier videos like right before she got with Drake she talks about being on WIC. Its just sad that she goes through life thinking what she is doing is ok because she has all of these fools supporting her.

I can't decide my feelings on this girl.

On one hand, she tried to trap two teenage boys with babies without them knowing about it. Shes mooching off her mother, and claims youtube to be a "full time job". She, seems, to only want babies for the drama and cute things that come along with them.

On the other hand, she somewhat takes care of her kids. Thats really the only positive...

Anyway, as soon as Lilia hit about one & things got more "serious" with Drake she just.. decided she was bored with Lilia. Don't say I'm wrong. Haven't you noticed theres NO pictures on Facebook? NO videos on YouTube anymore? Like, hello? As soon as she got pregnant, she decided no one ever wanted to see or hear of/about Lilia ever again.

Theres an entire "hate" blog dedicated to her .

Her videos and drama is addictive, but most of the things she does is wrong.

wtf*ever wrote:Jess is obviously one of those jackasses who googles shit all day and then thinks she's got the equivalent of a phd because of it. Seriously, how can anyone take her rants on circumcision seriously when she pierced an infants ears?? lol. That's a great point. It just goes to prove how dumb people can be. I actually feel sorry for Jess is some ways. She has NO IDEA what she has done to her life. Going from one child to three is going to be a huge adjustment. It will be super hard for her to ever get out of her moms house alone with three kids and hold down a job. She's all wrapped up in thinking about decorating a nursery and breastfeeding and circumcision, I don't think she has given any thought at all to what her kids lives are going to be like beyond the infant phase and that's just sad. Honestly I think she needs counselling or something because what is she going to do when her kids are beyond the infant phase (and that will go by FAST) and she is stuck at her mom's house with three kids?

You are so right. She hasn't given it any thought about what it will really be like. Day care for three will cost so much money that even with child support I'm not so sure it would pay her to work making minimum wage. My guess is she will in up on welfare. Even the infant phase is going to be super hard because when Lillia is awake there is no napping for her when the boys sleep...that's even if the boys nap at the same time. Of course, she is probably counting on her mom and brother to help her. If you notice her room when watching her videos it is always messy. If she can't live in a clean place having one child can you imagine three? I was watching her video of when she was testing to see if she was pregnant with the twins she reacted the exact way someone would if they were trying to get pregnant....from the things she said to how she talked to her guy about it, ect. She wasn't shocked, surprised, upset....nothing. Pure joy. She can say all day it was an accident, but that video in itself tells whats up.

No she can't look after her kids. She is depending on her mother for a place for her and her kids to stay so it's Jess's mother who is really looking after all of them. She isn't homeless because of her mother taking them all in. Where do you think she'd be right now if not for that?

wtf*ever wrote:No she can't look after her kids. She is depending on her mother for a place for her and her kids to stay so it's Jess's mother who is really looking after all of them. She isn't homeless because of her mother taking them all in. Where do you think she'd be right now if not for that?

How do you know her Mum looks after them?

Because she is supporting them! They live in her house. They depend on Jess's mother for a place to live. Even Drake lived there for a while, didn't he? Jess is a little girl who likes to play house and have babies, not a responsible parent.

wtf*ever wrote:Because she is supporting them! They live in her house. They depend on Jess's mother for a place to live. Even Drake lived there for a while, didn't he? Jess is a little girl who likes to play house and have babies, not a responsible parent.

So what if she lives in her mum's house. Her Mum works all day so it's not like her mum is looking after Lilia all day while Jessica goes out to party. She does live with her mum, that don't make her dependable on her, if you remember, she did have a apartment. Just like anyone, so many people have children and still live with their parents. Even adults so that is know excuse to label her as a bad mum. You just want a excuse to pick on someone because you refuse to admit that teen mums aren't all bad.

You are just showing your immaturity by refusing to admit that it's Jessica's mother who is supporting all of them. Why do you think she's out working all day? Because she has to support her kid and grandkids too. Jess should try getting a real job instead of airing her dirty laundry all over youtube for money.

Jess needed to move back in, she has one kid and two on the way. That means she DOES depend on her mother. And so do her children. So what if she had an apartment, that was then. She lived with her mom when she had one kid, moved her boyfriend in, got pregnant again and came back home. That's hardly someone who can take care of themselves obviously.

And you never answered my question. Where do you think Jess and her kids would be right now if not for her mother's kindness? Her mom does not owe Jess a place to stay, she's twenty years old and a mother herself. You're giving her a pass because she isn't out partying, instead she hangs out online all day and makes babies she can't support.

wtf*ever wrote:You are just showing your immaturity by refusing to admit that it's Jessica's mother who is supporting all of them. Why do you think she's out working all day? Because she has to support her kid and grandkids too. Jess should try getting a real job instead of airing her dirty laundry all over youtube for money.

Jess needed to move back in, she has one kid and two on the way. That means she DOES depend on her mother. And so do her children. So what if she had an apartment, that was then. She lived with her mom when she had one kid, moved her boyfriend in, got pregnant again and came back home. That's hardly someone who can take care of themselves obviously.

And you never answered my question. Where do you think Jess and her kids would be right now if not for her mother's kindness? Her mom does not owe Jess a place to stay, she's twenty years old and a mother herself. You're giving her a pass because she isn't out partying, instead she hangs out online all day and makes babies she can't support.

I can't believe how immature you being to be quite honest. Jessica makes a lot of money through youtube and youtube can be classed as a job. How do you know that she works all day and gives it to jess and her children. She depends on her mother for a home but that's not what I am saying. She does depend on her mother for her home. What I am saying is it is not Jess's mum looking after Lilia. She does. If Jess wouldn't have her mum, then she would get a apartment. Simple, she gets enough income. You are probably just a 12 year old who doesn't know anything about anything. Answer my question, Who looks after Lilia all day? All I'm saying is Jess isn't a bad mum. She looks after her kids, has money to buy them things, and loves them. What more do you want?